this blog spawned from twitter, my roommate's internet inability, and something that ian said. I was going to write the whole thing in one blog but then I decided to break it up into two parts. i'm not even completely sure what I'm trying to say so hopefully we can figure that out together!
i think that we live to connect with each other. to understand each other so fully that words do not even need to be exchanged to know what/why/how our friend is thinking or feeling. I have this with a small handful of people and I think this is the case for most. to even have it with just one person.
different seasons of life have put me and those that I connect with in different places at different times. i have gone through periods where i have diligently tried to stay in touch with these people and I have gone through times where I haven't tried at all.
i'm trying to figure out where I really stand on this. lately i've been feeling like this situation could be comparable to living in the past/present. maybe its more important to be completely engaged with the people who are currently IN your life. i mean why attempt to connect with people hundreds of miles away when you are not even spending time attempting to connect with your roommates. there are a lot of people that I interact with often, yet, i know they know nothing about me and I nothing about them. and I doubt that this will change with these people.
so maybe the other side of the argument is to cling to those that you know you connect with and not let anything get in the way. i'm sure it depends on the kind of relationship you have. staying in touch can be awkward or easy and i don't think this directly correlates with how deeply you connect.
there are times when I feel terribly disconnected/alone and times where I feel truly connected. i guess i'm trying to figure out why.
8 comments:
I know what you mean Mike. I think its important to note that often those friends who you are most connected with are the same ones the don't require a lot of proximity or time. I have some, not many, but some friends who I can hang out with and feel totally connected with even after not seeing or talking with them for months. Understanding and caring are implied in the friendship and not gained through "talk time" Yet, I know most relationships don't work this way...
definitely get what you mean, but i think both of the staying in touch with those physically around you and staying in touch with those that you know best are equally important. of course friendships change - as people grow older and have different priorities. but, i think it isn't one way or the other, it's a balance of both.
that being said, hopefully we can hang out soon. i know you're working full time now, and i work almost every night now, but let's make some time! kevin's having a birthday bbq this saturday if you're interested.
brad - I agree. and I'm down for your return.
holly - I agree. it seems like a balance is the answer to many of life's difficult questions. I think I will see you at work on thurs. and I would go on sat but I think I have some things going on but we'll see.
i like this post. and yes, we both know that i am AWFUL and keeping in touch. this inspires me to be better! keep blogging, I check for new ones almost every day. :)
ps are you on twitter? i'm not, but I won't judge you if you are.
ahh, grammar fail. sorry!
part one... Mike, you're my hero.
part two... where is it? haha
Liz you are great and its ok that you're not the best at staying in touch.. just makes it that much more exciting when you are in touch!
and yes, i'm on twitter.
and you know I was thinking about that last night I really do need to get on part 2...
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